The Epoc of the Century, the Millenia of the Decade

Life is composed of routine, regardless of the stage of life you are in or who you are. Repetition is significant and almost inevitable in the grand scheme of things. We all use routine to some extent and even you say you don't, you are constantly doing something different... well even chaos has order.

It seems like routine seeks you out, or in most cases you consciously find it or fall into it. For most of us, routine is comforting but then again, some people say they avoid it, whenever possible. A friend of mine says that she doesn't find routing comforting, for herself that is. The reasoning she gave behind this was that her childhood always revolved around the places she moved to and new situations she was placed in. High school was the longest period of time she stayed in a school. Everything else was a year here and there.

I dislike routine to some extent, because i feel like life gets tuned down and you go on autopilot. However, routine is very important in new surroundings where things are unfamiliar. Wouldn't someone in new surroundings need routine even more than someone in familiar surroundings? Then again i find comfort in comfort. Is it possible to find comfort in stress? Anything is possible with people since everyone has the potential to be different.
How about we look at a nature nurture argument... are people somewhat designed to behave in a manner that causes routine. When you go eat lunch, do you tend to sit in the same seat, or talk to the same people? If you drive to work, do you pick a different route each day or go the same way each time? Another example considers scenarios of being in a prison or on a desert island. In these cases, where one is stripped of their comforts, routine is absolutely necessary to keep ones mind sharp, and sane. There has been studies showing this and basically people will do anything necessary to feel like they have something to look forward to, and something to think about. Being completely idle is destructive.

How can someone say they do not find routine comforting. Sure, excess routine can be sickening, but we all crave it to some degree. Some may say that marriage and "settling down" is falling into the ultimate routine. Those who dislike routine are opposed to marriage because it will make them feel unsettled and instead of feeling comforted by marriage will become restless and upset?

Coming to this conclusion is potentially a logical fallacy of causality. Just because people get married doesn't mean that they will be stuck to routine, and comfort doesn't all come from the routine of marriage. Clearly this road goes two ways because not all marriages are happy, but if someone was to say that they are opposed to marriage because it will do the opposite of comforting them Because they do not find comfort in a life of routine, then i feel like there is some problems with that. Maybe the fears here are associated with a mental image of what marriage tends to be and the 'restrictions' which apparently 'come with the territory' result in a negative impression of the entire idea.

As a side note, is the idea of routine derived from choices which are neutral in ones mind? Meaning, to have something become routine, is there a qualification of the action being insignificant? Such as indifference to which way to drive to work? Because if you look at something which we have to choose to to (within reason) such as eating, can you call that a routine? It is something that is done repetitively but when someone was to say 'i don't find routine comforting' are they talking things that they have a more flexible choice over? At least, a choice, which, in their mind, has minimal impact either way it is chosen? that doesn't make sense, so maybe routine is being referred to as a much bigger basket, where variety has gone the way of the dodo. Being completely clear, if the scenario goes something like ::waking up, shower, eat, shopping/ work, eat, work/chore, get home, eat, watch TV/talk with loved one, bed:: has gotta be very boring and not comforting, yet why is that considered necessary? Is married life doomed to a routine without excitement? Only if the people involved let it.